Matthew turns TWO!


From day one Matthew has been growing in Leaps and Bounds! His growth and abilities never cease to amaze me! I really am in love with the toddler phase of his life. I adore watching him explore and learn new things about the world around him! Watching his eyes light up and the excitement on his face that follows after he learns how to do something for the first time. He lives for adventure! Completely fearless and always wanting to try new things, he definitely gets that from his Mother! Matthew is such a joy to be around, everyone is always intrigued with his smile and capabilities! Everybody loves Matthew! Its kinda hard not to! He’s a lovable kid.

November 7, 2014

Just like the year before we wanted to celebrate Matt’s birthday on the actual day of his birthday. Hubby took the day off and we decided to do something simple and intimate instead of making a big to-do. I’m 34 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 and didn’t feel up to having people over. Additionally, we were not interested in shelling out the extra cash for a party this year. We went all out for his birthday last year, that should hold him for a while!😀 Further more it was Matthew’s last “hoo-rah” as our only child and so it was a day we wanted to share only with family.

IMG_1097 IMG_1098 IMG_1099

For Matthew’s 1st birthday I decided to start a few family traditions that I would continue on doing each year. Not only for him but for our future children to come. I started what I called “Birthday Pancakes” which consist of a pancake in the shape of the number congruent with his age.

IMG_0958 IMG_0963 IMG_0964

So this year I carried on with the number two! Boy was it hard! I thought to myself “what have I gotten myself into?” However, I was determined to do it! I finally figured it out after about 6 tries! Matthew still has a thing for sweet potatoes, so I decided to make these sweet potato pancakes as well. He devoured it and begged for more, just like last year! So proud of his fine motor skill development. He now cuts his own (soft) food with his toddler knife and fork. Amazing the difference a year makes.

People often ask me what is a “Birthday Bath”? It’s a CatheyFamilyTradition, duh! I guess I made it up! I’m always doing sensory baths for Matt, the bathtub is his happy place. So i’ve often brought a lot of texture and color to his baths and he has always enjoyed it. So, I decided that I would do a sensory bath for his birthday each year and include whatever it was that he was interested in or enjoyed playing with. So this is where the idea for a “Birthday Bath” came from. Its just a sensory bath done on his birthday each year. For his first birthday I did balloons and ball pit balls! He was in heaven! He loved balloons and balls at the time and had a blast in the tub that morning!



Dinosaurs are the way to Matthew’s heart these days! When I say he LOVES them, I’m not exaggerating. He’s obsessed! I bought him a T-rex on a whim while in Wal-mart one day just because. I figured he would like it. Boys like dinosaurs, right? Little did I know I would be starting a future attachment to these reptiles! So without question it was the theme for his 2nd birthday bath!


For the backdrop I used washable paint by crayola. To color the water I used blue food coloring. The birthday sign I found at dollar tree for $1! The dinosaurs we already had! I actually scored them at a consignment sale for $1!



IMG_0970 IMG_0981 IMG_0974

Matthew was ecstatic when I opened the door and let him see what was on the other side! He gasped and shouted “DINO-STOORREESS”! I adore the way he says that! He stayed in the tube for HOURS! We were supposed to head out to enjoy his birthday festivities around 11am but because he wanted to stay in the bath so long we postponed it to 2pm! The night prior I stayed up way past 4am painting the backdrop for his bath, assembling his gifts and preparing my kitchen and homemade pancake batter for the next morning! I forgot all about the fact that I was 34 weeks pregnant and was like go-go gadget around my house! Running off of pure adrenaline I was focused and determined to get it all done!

Birthday gift he woke up to! He ran right up to it and started playing!

Birthday gift he woke up to! He ran right up to it and started playing!

A new ball pit! Jumped in immediately after his bath!

A new ball pit! Jumped in immediately after his bath!

35 inches tall! Mommy's big boy!

35 inches tall! Mommy’s big boy!

IMG_0997 IMG_1002

After getting dressed and measuring my sweet boy we headed out to Safari Nation. This being one of the few toddler attractions that Matthew had not visited here in Greensboro I was excited to take him.


IMG_1117 IMG_1116 IMG_1115 IMG_1114Matthew & Gavin [my nephew, and Matt’s best buddy]had a blast! Hubby was hanging right in there with them! It was the cutest sight! I watched them play for hours! Never getting tired or hungry, they just wanted to keep going and going! Here and there my sister and I would join them in one of the bouncy houses. I remained seated mostly as not to harm Miss Madalynn, my yummy Nephew Nehemiah wouldn’t let me out of his view. He’s so loveable, his attachment to me since I’ve been pregnant has been adorable. He always seeks me out and gives Auntie all the hugs and kisses! Sweet boy!

IMG_1109 IMG_1113 IMG_1107 IMG_1016 IMG_1108 IMG_1111 IMG_1112IMG_1015IMG_1106IMG_1105IMG_1104IMG_1103IMG_1107IMG_1011IMG_1019IMG_1020IMG_1023

We arrived at Safari Nation around 2:00p and didnt leave until almost 6:00p. We stayed so long that my Mom was able to get off work and travel from Durham and meet us there to spend time playing with Matthew. She’s such an amazing Grandmother! It’s not hard to see why her Grandchildren are CRAZY about her!

IMG_1040 IMG_1038 IMG_1039


I had to do it! What can I say? I'm an adrenaline junky! Hubby said I could! :p

I had to do it! What can I say? I’m an adrenaline junky! Hubby said I could! :p

Matt & Mommy! One of the only pics I took with him that day! Always behind the camera!

Matt & Mommy! One of the only pics I took with him that day! Always behind the camera!

It was near closing time so we decided to head out and get dinner. We traveled to the closest restaurant we could find seeing as how I was growing weak from being so hungry. We stopped at a Mexican restaurant not far from Safari Nation. We were extremely pleased with dinner, Hubby & I plan to return there soon.


Matthew enjoyed a beef and cheese taco with fries. He ate himself full and then jumped into his Daddy’s arms and exclaimed really loudly, “nite nite”. Within 5 minutes he was out! I think its safe to say that he had an amazing yet tiring day!

IMG_1120 IMG_1121


Luckily everyone was done with their entree’s. We bagged up the leftovers, paid the bill and headed out. Hubby wanted to take big guy home to lay him down so the two of them headed home. My Mom and I ventured to Maxi B’s to get cake and cupcakes to take back home. While we were out I scored a beautiful dress on clearance at Motherhood to wear in my maternity photo shoot the next day! Win! We went back to the house and waited for Matthew to get up from his nap. We then gave him his birthday cupcake which was chocolate moose with strawberry cream cheese icing. My original thought was to sit him at the table and let him have at it. But, of course his Grandma wasn’t having it! She wanted to feed it to him! She loves catering to her boys!❤


The rest of the night was spent watching Matthew play with his toys and continue to open his gifts. He was so excited and kept ooo’ing and ahhhh’ing! Cuteness! My Mom got him an outfit to wear that Sunday to church and the shoes to match. He was sharp per the usual!


That’s how we celebrated Matthew’s 2nd birthday! 24 whole months he has graced us with his presence! I have really enjoyed being this little boys Mom! All the highs and lows have been worth it, because he is worth it! Happy Birthday Dear Son! Mommy Loves you!❤

Places He’s Been: 

North Carolina Zoo of Asheboro

North Carolina Aquarium at Pine Knoles

Dallas Aquarium – Fort Worth, TX

Greensboro Children’s Museum

Winston Salem Children’s Museum

Greensboro Science Center (Member)

Greensboro ArtQuest

Safari Nation

Huntington Park “Beach” – Newport News, VA

Wrightsville Beach – Wilmington, NC

Atlantic Beach – Morehead City, NC

Belinda’s Pumpkins and Gourds – Louisburg, NC

Kansas City, MO


He can:

Sing his ABCs

Recognize the letters A, B, C, & M

Recognize the colors Blue & Yellow

Climb on a jungle gym unassisted

Swing on the “big boy” swing

Say his family + friend’s names:

Mommy (Mom-meee) Daddy (Dah-dee)

Grandma Arlene (Ma-Ma) Nana Joy (Nah-Nah)

Auntie Grace (Aunt GG) Gavin (Gabin aka Pah-Pah) Nehemiah (My-nah, Miah or Nita-miah)

Chase (Ctase) Chasity (Chat-tity)

Count to 10

Say his Grace

Use electronic devises on his own (Tablet, iPhone, TV)

Clearly speak 60+ words

Use the potty like a big boy! Currently in pull-ups! Not long before we are completely trained!

Remember the words to songs and sing along; current favorite: “Praise the Lord everybody!”

Clap, Stomp and play drum and tambourine on beat

Drink out of an “open cup”

Place puzzle pieces together

Build towers with his blocks

Pretend to cook with his kitchen set

Cut his food with his toddler knife


His favorite things: 



Playing in water


He can sign: (Using American Sign Language) 



Thank You






Pictures from this year that I adore

Playing at the lake

Playing at the lake

Coming in from a run with Daddy

Coming in from a run with Daddy

2nd cleaning at the Dentist

2nd cleaning at the Dentist

Sleeping Cutie

Sleeping Cutie

Silly faces with Bishop Williams

Silly faces with Bishop Williams



Hugs for Sweet Kaylee

Hugs for Sweet Kaylee



Playing the tambourine during Anniversary service

Playing the tambourine during Anniversary service

Bird watching while visiting the Aquarium in Fort Worth, TX.

Bird watching while visiting the Aquarium in Fort Worth, TX.

Waiting on Aunite Tracey at the airport

Waiting on Aunite Tracey at the airport

Silly Boy!

Silly Boy!

Fun with Friends at the Greensboro Children's Museum.

Fun with Friends at the Greensboro Children’s Museum.

Story-time with Gramma <3

Story-time with Gramma❤

Center City Park Fun

Center City Park Fun

Such an inquisitive little guy!

Such an inquisitive little guy!

Splashing with road dog Chasity

Splashing with road dog Chasity

Womb Buddies

Womb Buddies

Sweet Grammy Arlene

Sweet Grammy Arlene and Cousin Gavin

Wrightsville Beach 2014

Wrightsville Beach 2014

The Beach is better at night!

The Beach is better at night!

Mommy Cuddles

Mommy Cuddles

Cookie Cuddles! He loves this girl!

Cookie Cuddles! He loves this girl!

Mommy, Matt & Maddie!

Mommy, Matt & Maddie!

Adventure Pals! Mr. Elliot!

Adventure Pals! Mr. Elliot!

Cooking up yummies with Gavin!

Cooking up yummies with Gavin!

Arcade things with his Best Friend Gavin

Arcade things with his Best Friend Gavin











Showering Princess Madalynn <3


So my Mom put together a shower in honor of our soon-to-be baby girl Madalynn Autumn. It was thrown at my favorite restaurant here in Greensboro, Mimi’s Cafe. It was so perfect! I had so much fun and felt so loved! One of the most important things that I have learned during this journey of Motherhood is that having an awesome support system is extremely important. Thank God I am blessed enough to have an amazing support system behind myself and my blooming family. The Lord is good!

IMG_0730 IMG_0727 IMG_0726 IMG_0719

IMG_0732 IMG_0734 IMG_0769 IMG_0770

 I was so happy to see my guest! So many of my amazingly supportive friends and family were there with smiling faces as I walked through the door. I was greeted warmly, everyone that was there wanted to be there to support me and I was happy!

IMG_0789 IMG_0902 IMG_0808 IMG_0802 IMG_0905 IMG_0904

Madalynn was fortunate enough to receive a lot of the things that she needed and plenty of items that I really wanted for her. Going from having a boy to having a girl is a little bit of a challenge. I could tell you all day long how to dress a boy from Fall till Summer but being that I’ve never had the pleasure of building a wardrobe for a little girl I was a little clueless in certain areas in the beginning. Thankfully I have ones near and dear to me that have little girls and were more than happy to point me in the right direction with getting started with Madalynn’s attire.

IMG_4440 bsh2


I went back and fourth about whither or not I actually wanted a shower this go ’round. Immediately after we found out our little bundle was a girl we started to prepare for her. I figured I would need to replace just about everything. I’m a SAHM so I knew I would be on a budget and would have to hunt down deals so I didn’t waste any time, I got right on it! After searching out a few gently used items for my sweet girl people began throwing baby items our way. I’m not talking about things that probably should have been in the trash, these were NICE items! I was sooo happy! I couldn’t believe that some one whom I’d JUST met would just give away some of this stuff! Like really? You want to GIVE this to me? Yes please! TYJ!

IMG_0726 IMG_0803 IMG_0809


My sweet friend Tianna kept inquiring about my baby shower, I informed her that my Mom had offered to throw one for me but I wasn’t really sure if we should go through with it. I mean it was my second child, how many showers are you “allowed” to have? Lol! She pushed the envelope and basically told me that I WAS having a shower and that it didn’t matter what number child this was. She contacted my Mom and they started to plan. Another sweet friend of mine, Comfort, had also been talking to my Mom about a shower for me so they decided to do it. Looking back I’m really glad that I agreed to it! It was much needed! Being a SAHM is a sacrifice. More so on the behalf of the Mother, you go without so much just so your children can have what they need and can be treated from time to time with things that they want. This baby shower was a blessing to my family. Every item we received was one less item my husband would have to purchase for her. We’re blessed to have people in our lives that are willing to celebrate our unborn and shower her with love before ever meeting her.

Our Princess is set! There isn’t one thing she “needs” of course as her mother there are plenty of things I still want her to have, but I thank God I am able to say that her immediate needs are met. TGBTG! I would like to say thank you to My Mother! Mom you are such a rock in my life! I can always depend on your for support and correction! At 28yo I realized that I still need my Mother, to lead and guide me down this path called life. Thanks for always being there for me! I can not wait to experience that relationship with Madalynn! To Comfort and Tianna, thanks for always having my back! Duly note that I am forever in your corner!❤

To those who ventured to my shower, traveling near and far, words can never express how grateful I was to see your smiling faces! Thank you for your gift and for you time! You could have been anywhere else doing anything else but you came to support myself and my family! Thank You!❤

IMG_0792 IMG_0906

Asking for Matthew's Kisses

Asking for Matthew’s Kisses

Being rejected! Boys! lol

Being rejected! Boys! lol

Auntie Baby! Nehemiah!

Auntie Baby! Nehemiah!

Sweet Moment Captured...hugs for Madalynn

Sweet Moment Captured…hugs for Madalynn

IMG_0810 IMG_0808 IMG_0767 IMG_0786 IMG_0766 IMG_0787 IMG_0765

Fall Consigning 2014



I had entirely too much fun consigning this year! I decided to not only shop but to actually sell some of Matthew’s clothing he had out grown. In addition to that I volunteered at two sales this year instead of just the one I normally do in the spring. I can honestly say that this made a big difference in my shopping experience and over all outcome! I learned that the people who shop early are really the ones who walk away with the best deals. Seriously, there were really great fairly priced items available at the pre-sale that had I not gotten to shop early would have gotten snatched up before I ever got a chance to lay eyes on it! –I’m a SAHM and would like to be for as long as possible! This is one of the ways I save money & keep my family looking good!

The sales I attended this year here in Greensboro, NC were:


Trinity Tots to Teens Consignment

Fall First Kids Consignment

& Kids Konsignment

I first found out about consignment sales during a prenatal yoga class when I was about 7 months pregnant with my sweet Matthew. My instructor was a member of the church that was hosting Kids Konsignment Sale and invited us all to come. Being a new Mom I had never heard of “consignment sales” so after seeing the other ladies light up with excitement after she mentioned it, I was immediately intrigued. I mentioned it to a few friends of mine who were also expecting little bundles of their own and we were all eager to find some gently used items for our soon-to-be bambinos! The first go round I was hooked! I came home with so many nice items for my Matthew! My Mother tagged along with me to a few others that year and we were immediately addicted! From that moment to this one I have been and will forever be a shameless-consignment-sale-junkie!❤

Fast-forward to this year. I was soooo happy with my finds! Especially considering the fact that I had to sort through clothes for a toddler boy wearing a 3T and a newborn girl who could possibly hit a growth spurt in the middle of the winter. Boy was I on a mission! Im proud to say that I got it done though! Hubs was excited to see the items I purchased especially after giving him my totals. My Mom called me a “virtuous woman” which made me feel pretty darn awesome! I was pleased with what I accomplished and was happy that my children had what they needed entering into the cooler months.


For Handsome Matthew (22 months & size 3T; prices rounded)

I kinda hit the jackpot for this kid! Anyone that knows me knows that I am very, VERY particular about what my Matthew wears! I refuse to put just any ol thing on him! He is my pride&JOY I get so much pleasure out of seeing him look good! So I was extremely pleased (as I always am) with my consignment finds for him!

Pictured below:

White Thermal $1

Osk Kosh sweater with buttoned cow neck collar $3

Teal Gap Sweater $2

Osk Kosh Green and Blue Stripped sweater $4

Cordaroy black blazer $4

Osh Kosh Plaid button up w/ matching bubble vest $6

IZOD blue blazer $6

Minnetoka Brown Moccs $4

8 pair of assorted jeans and khaki’s totaling $21

Gap light blue winter coat $6

Timberland boots $7

Top Slider Sperry’s $5



All these items for my sweet boy came up to $69! Ha! Picture trying to purchase all of these items brand new and coming up with that price! No clearance rack or coupons could ever achieve such!

I’ve since added a few more items to his wardrobe. But this was a really nice start for a boy who couldn’t wear any of his clothing from the previous cool season(s).

For Miss Madalynn (Sizes ranging from newborn – 6 months; prices rounded)

I had so much fun sifting through the baby girl clothes! I mean, goodness! I’ve never really shopped for a girl. I’m pretty much surrounded by little boys at the moment [and loving it]! I just didn’t realize how cute little girls clothes can be! I’ve never really saw girl clothes that I LOVED! Never! Sure i’ve seen cute pieces; but most are in a cheesy I’m getting ready for bed type of way! When I found out I was having a girl I went straight to Target! Mostly looking trying to figure out “how am I going to dress this child?” I would say that I was a little satisfied with the items that I picked up, however I was extremely excited about what I found while consigning!

Pictured Below:

3M Gap Burnt Orange Corduroy Dress $2

3M Brown & Pink Corduroy Jumper Dress $2

Brand new NB carters head bands $1

3M Corduroy Pink Bubble Skirt $2

3M Corduroy Maroon Skirt $3

3M Pink Dress w/diaper cover and matching shoes $4

Brand new size 2 Stripped shoes $4

Pink and Cheetah print size 1 shoes $2

One size turquoise ruffled diaper cover $3

An assortment of sleepers sizes NB-6M priced at $.50-$1 totaling $5

3-6M Gap Purple Jacket $3

3M Ruffled Pink Jacket $2

NB handmade crocheted sweater $3

0-3M knitted cover up $1

3 EUC Aden and Anais blankets (wait for it) $6!!!



Baby girl’s items totaled $39 for the WIN! I was so pleased with my finds for her! I’ve really wanted to try the aden and anais brand especially since so many moms swear by it! I’ve noticed that they are kind of thin and very breathable! Which is nice for a little that may love to be swaddled but gets too hot in cotton receiving blankets. — Can you tell that I love corduroy!? If I see it, its as good as gone! I love corduroy on my littles! Love it! So glad that I was able to find so many corduroy pieces for little of nothing! The jackets were also an added bonus! Those are so important and are something people often overlook when shopping for a baby. I’m not at all mad at the steal I got on those sleepers! $.50? I’ll take them all please!

Pictured Below was the highlight of my trip! I was so happy to find this! While visiting a friend for a playdate Matthew exclaimed he had to potty. We rushed to the bathroom in the nick-of-time and he went (proud potty training Mama)! Afterward he noticed that there was a stepping stool under the sink and rushed over to use it to turn on the water and get soap on his own. He was so proud of himself afterwards, in that moment I knew I had to get him one of his own. When I passed by it I grabbed it up so fast! I was like a kid in a candy store! Mom Life! Ha!

White Stepping stool in EUC for both my babes to use! $6

White Stepping stool in EUC for both my babes to use! $6

My totals for this years fall consignment combined totaled $118 (rounded). Mind you this was for two children! My goal is normally $60 so I did pretty good! This was a great start! I never go in expecting to buy clothes for the whole season. I know there will be plenty of trips to Target and Once Upon A Child to finish them off. Along with searching through sales racks at Old Navy and Carter’s/ Osh Kosh until they have everything they need!


Interested in doing some consigning? Here’s a great way to get started: visit ! Here you will find a list of consignment sales in your area. Fall consignment sales are usually from August-September; Spring consignment sales normally start in February-March.❤


I sold clothes with one of my favorite consignment sales Trinity Tots to Teens Consignment Sale this year! It was an experience! Hanging, pricing, and tagging clothes is a lot more tedious than I ever expected! However the outcome was worth it! I sold 80% of the clothing I took to the sale which totaled $74! WIN!



Overcoming Miscarriage: Breaking the Silence

Miscarriage is not a bad word, its okay to talk about. Today I am strong enough to share my experience.

"Guren Lotus Flower Miscarriage" by: Carliheart

“Guren Lotus Flower Miscarriage” by: Carliheart

…I’ve known of women who had miscarriages, and although I felt horrible for their lost I never knew the depth or the extent of child loss until February 11, 2014. . .

Finding out I was pregnant:

January 29, 2014 was a beautiful chilly morning. The little guy and I woke up to snow! Lots of it! I was so excited! It was his first snow! Sure it’d snowed when he was an infant but that didn’t count right? Right! THIS was his first snow! I was soooo thrilled! I went into the kitchen and started preparing him “snow man” pancakes. I love food art and creating fun toddler meals for my sweet boy.

 Matthew demolished the pancakes! I quickly suited him up, making sure to have at least two layers under his snow suit and we were off!

He had such a good time playing in the snow! I tried and tried to get him to say snow but he just kept pointing at it and laughing. Ha! We stayed out in the snow for hours sledding down a hill with a storage bin top, throwing the football back and forth, running around and looking back at our footprints, etc. Too much fun! I captured some amazing pictures for our scrapbook!

We returned home for lunch, I prepared PB&J sandwiches and warmed some HM veggie&chicken soup. We were both happy to be inside and warm! Matthew fell asleep while cuddled up in my arms, I sat admiring the precious child God has given me for a moment, its nice to stop and take it all in. Finally I laid him down and sat down to complete a few homework assignments. I thought to myself, “have I had my period this month?” Here it was the 29th and no cycle. My cycle is regular! Since the first day I got my period I NEVER missed one! (except when I was pregnant with Matthew, of course) My suspicions went into high gear! However, I stayed focused and took full advantage of Matthew’s nap time completing one assignment and half of another. I didn’t think about the possibility of me being pregnant again until I talked to my Husband via text later in the day. He texted me asking for items I would need from the store to complete dinner and towards the end I playfully included a pregnancy test.

As soon as he arrived I asked for the test! I secured big man in his high chair, gave him Cheerios and ran in the bathroom. Ripped open the test read the instructions and called for my Husband. I followed the instructions and placed the test on the edge of the bathtub. It was turning blue super FAST! I YELLED! “We’re pregnant!!!!” We embraced and were truly happy for this new addition! Since December I’d been saying I was going to be pregnant in 2014! Little did I know I was ALREADY pregnant! According to calculations I had conceived in early  January! What a way to bring in the new year, huh? Ha! I was excited! This was truly a surprise! No, we were not “trying” to get pregnant but we’ve never ever tried to prevent pregnancy. We’ve never felt it was up to us when we should have children, that is in God’s hands! His Will be done! The remainder of the day Matthew’s name was “Big Brother” thats all Hubs would refer to him as! It was so adorable! The days events were a Cathey Clan moment to remember! Our regularly scheduled Service was cancelled due to the snow, so we had dinner spent QT and put the little one to bed. We stayed up late that night chatting about what was to come and making preparations. We discussed where we would have the baby and who would deliver. We discussed our birth team options and agreed our beloved Birth Doula Jennifer would have to be there, no question! It was a joyous occasion, the Lord was blessing! I was so thrilled I could hardly stand it!


I immediately informed our immediate family. My Mom & His Mom. My Sister & His Sister. Cautioning them to keep the awesome news to themselves. As we had agreed to keep it hush-hush until I was done with my first trimester. As I was only around 5 weeks. My Mom, of course, was the most excited of them all!


They were ALL overjoyed! It was so unreal! I loved being pregnant with my eldest and was totally up for doing it all over again! Especially with the awesome support team I have in my corner! I continued on with my daily routine as if nothing happened. Here and there I would make note of things I would need for the house to help me get along better the more and more pregnant I became. We got a new baby gate so that I wouldn’t have to hop over the previous one we had. We switched sides of the bed so that Hubby could pick up big guy if he woke up during the night. Hubby didn’t want me doing too much lifting. We immediately revamped our quest to find our dream home and purchase a family vehicle. I wasn’t to wear our 26 pounder unless it was absolutely necessary, Gerald was too afraid it would hurt the baby. I informed him that it wouldn’t as long as I had his weight distributed properly. I started wearing the belt to my Tula above my waist line and directly below my bust line. In the babywearing world this would somewhat be a dead give away but; what was I to do? Hubby’s orders! A new living room set was in order! I struggled with how low our current set is when I was pregnant with Matthew, I did not want to have to go through that again.

I set up appointments to interview a few Midwives and OBGYNs at Wendover OBGYN, Central Carolina OBGYN, & Natural Beginnings Birth & Wellness Center! I wasn’t sure if I wanted to continue with my current OB and wanted to see if I’d find a better fit with some other providers here in the area. I’d already talked to one of the midwives that worked at CCOBGYN via a VBAC support group and came to love her! I was almost sure I was going to go with her practice and was growing more and more excited.

When I was pregnant with Matthew I had this glow to my skin! Can you say GLOW WORM! Everyone noticed and commented on it. One of my brothers often asked me if I had gotten or tan or had bronzer on, I’d just laugh. My Mother often told me how beautiful I looked pregnant and I couldn’t help but agree! I never felt more beautiful in my life!

photo 1-3                                        photo 2-4


My skin started to glow so early on during this pregnancy! My breast swelled and I LOOKED pregnant! People would randomly ask me if I was pregnant! Leaving me at a lost for words and relying on using word play to get out of answering the question. HaHa! I would say things like “What would make you ask something like that?” “If I were pregnant you would know” or “Are you calling me fat?” Ha! I’d always get out of answering and wonder if I would be able to hold out on letting the cat out of the bag. I felt I was too early on to say anything!

My "I've got a secret face" hehe

My “I’ve got a secret face” hehe 5 weeks

Out skating with my Sister's in Christ.

Out ice skating with my Sister’s in Christ. 6 weeks.


My energy level immediately took a hit! I was so tired; DOG tired! Like not able to do a thing! I talked to my Husband and my Mother about it. We all decided that my iron was probably really low, especially considering that I’ve had problems with it in the past. I added an iron supplement along with my prenatal vitamins and I was back to myself within a week!


Sunday February 9th after a wonderful service I rode down to Townsville, NC to visit with family members and celebrate my two little cousins accomplishments in college! Since the gang was all together I used the opportunity to inform my extended family of the news! My Grandmother was so happy! She gave so many kind and uplifting words. She told me how proud of me she was, how wonderful of a Husband I had and the awesome job I was doing as a wife and mom. She encouraged me and told me that I would do well. I was so happy I told her. I could use all the kind words and encouragement I could get. Having one child is enough! Two? I just knew it would be a challenge! Everyone congratulated me and were anxious to get their hands on another little squishy! We all love babies in my family! A few made comments about me pulling out my breast again to breastfeed my baby. Of course I responding accordingly! “I sure will be so prepare yourself!” Ha!


Starting to Miscarry

Tuesday February 11, 2014 I woke up around 8am to spotting. I’d never had spotting with my first pregnancy but had heard of some women who did. My first assumption was implantation bleeding and I paid it no mind. Around 10 am I was still bleeding and it was getting heavier and more bright red each time. I started to worry. I said a quick prayer and put on a liner and kept on with my day. My Mom calls me everyday on her lunch break around 12:30pm during our conversation I informed her of my bleeding and she got really quiet. This alarmed me. She asked me to keep a watch on it and if it continued to get any worse I needed to go to the ER. I agreed and hung up with her and called my Husband. Trying to remain positive he told me to calm down and get in bed and rest. I did just that. Around 2pm I was still having bleeding. I went to the rest room and there was soooo much blood that it all rushed out when I sat on the toilet. In tears I called my Husband frantic and told him that the bleeding was not stopping and that we needed to go to the ER. On a normal day it takes my Husband about 20-30 mins to get home! He was coming in the door 15 minutes after my phone call! He moved with urgency with getting big guy dressed and we were out the door in 6 minutes!

Sitting in the emergency room at the Women’s Hospital I felt dead inside! “Why am I here?” “What is going on?” “Is my baby ok?” “What is the meaning of this?” These were the thoughts plaguing my mind! Unbeknownst to us the hospital was under “quarantine” and wasn’t allowing persons 18 or younger inside of the hospital because of the recent flu outbreaks. This meant that our dearest Matthew was not allowed inside of the ER or waiting room. My Husband had to leave and take Matt out forcing me to be there alone. I wanted to break down, but something inside of me just would not let me. If I did, then what? What would change? — I felt a strong desire to sing, I began singing a melody of songs in my head and began texting my Doula. I informed her of where I was and what was going on. She immediately went into “what do you need me to do mode”. She was livid that I was forced to be there alone and asked if I wanted her to come so that I wouldn’t be alone. I told her that if she was able I would really appreciate it. Shortly after my Husband called to let me know he was on his way back. My first response was “but where is Matthew!??” He’d gone over to my Pastor’s house. After informing him and his wife of what was going on they instructed him to go come back to the hospital because he needed to be with his wife, they’d keep Matthew until we were done. I was so relieved and felt so blessed to have them! After hanging up I quickly called Jennifer, I let her know that my Husband was on his way back to the hospital and that she didn’t need to cancel any of her appointments. She gave a sigh of relief and told me to text her every hour with an update and that when she was done with her appointments if we were still in the ER she would meet us there. I agreed.

I was assigned to a room finally and waited there for the midwife for what seemed life forever, Hubs and I were quiet. There was an awkwardness between us. We were both scared and unsure of what was going on. He sat reading from a magazine and looked up every 10 minutes or so to ask if I was okay. I sat staring at the ceiling praying and seeking God’s mercy on behalf of my unborn child. Little did I know my Husband was praying, too. This explained the silence.
The midwife finally came in and began examining me, she asked an array of questions and made me aware that my HCG levels were pretty low for me to actually be 8 weeks. With a HCG level of 264 I was either miscarrying or not as far along as I had suspected. The only way to be sure was to have an internal ultrasound done. I was told to remove all clothing and change into a gown provided by the hospital and was taken to ultrasound. The sonographer got started with the ultrasound, she inserted the probe (which was horrible! I do not ever want to have to do that again) and began to seek the little one growing in my womb, I refused to even look at the screen. Later we learned from the midwife that she saw nothing, not even a sac. Learning this I was sooo devastated! In my mind that equalled no baby and a definite miscarriage!  The midwife still had hope! After one last exam to assure I was not have an atopic pregnancy she gave me instructions on what it is I should and should not do when I returned home. She instructed me to follow through with my intake appointment with CCOB and return to the ER on Friday. Hand in hand we left the ER and travelled to get our precious boy after getting something to eat. I retrieved my son from Mother Williams and prepared to return home. Before leaving she gave me kinds words and lots of encouragement!
After learning what happened at the ER  my Mom came to my house after she got off work. She helped me A LOT with Matthew and helped with dinner and a bit of cleaning I wasn’t able to get done. I continued to bleed more and more as time passed. At one point I went to the bathroom and heard a big plop! I cried out immediately, really loudly. My sweet Matthew came running to me and trying to figure out what was wrong! He jumped in my lap and pressed his head firmly into my chest. My Mom tried to remove him but he was resilient and would not leave my side. There I sat, on the toilet, with my 15 month old in my lap  with his legs wrapped around me and my Mother standing over me while I cried to God on behalf of my unborn! I was devastated! In that instance I was almost sure of what had happened! My Mom pleaded with me to calm down as not to upset Matthew. I agreed. After pulling myself together I got Matthew to loosen his grip and go with his Grandmother. Upon finding the courage to stand I turned back and saw what looked like an under developed embryo. I retrieved it from the toilet and it all started to set in. I could possibly be losing this baby…
My Mom left the next morning, her and my Husband both had to return to work. It was just Matthew and I. He was an angel. The perfect angel. Mother Williams (First Lady of our Church) always taught us that children can sense when their parents are ill. This day proved that fact! Matthew self entertained all day long. Over all he is not a needy child anyway but he truly did not call on my for anything that day! He ate when I got up to feed him and he sat and read books, looked at his shows on Netflix and chilled allowing Mommy to rest! It was amazing! As soon as his Father hit the door his whole demeanor changed! It was if he was if he knew Mommy needed time to rest. I was so thankful for our special little bond!
unnamed unnamed1 unnamed3
February 14, 2014
Probably one of the longest days of my life. Today was the day I would return to the Women’s Hospital to find out if my HCG levels had increased or if I was in fact miscarrying! I rested most of the day, only getting up to attend to my Matthew. The time arrived when Hubby would leave work and return home to get Matthew and I. We loaded the car and headed over to my sisters house where my Mother was. We dropped off our little guy and headed over to the hospital. Once in the parking lot Gerald took me by the hand and we began to pray. Walking up to the entrance everything seemed to be in “slow motion”. We checked in and took a seat, the olympics were on and it was a nice way to have “normal” conversation with each other and escape the situation at hand for a while.
We were not at all sad. We were not down and out about what we were going through, in this instance I was reminded of what marriage is really about. How important it is to marry the right person and how vital it is to be there for one another. I was happy to be married to this man, I was happy to have him at my side and holding my hand. He is a rock! I can always always always depend on him! — They came to get us and took several samples of blood from me, Hubby made a comment about how many tubes they had to fill. I informed him that I went through that frequently when doing lab work during my pregnancy with our boy. His eyes got big and we laughed about how he was lucky he didn’t have to carry our babies! LOL — The dreaded moment came when they would call us back and give us the results. Gerald grabbed my hand and lead me into the room. Listening to the lack of inflection in the nurses voice I started to prepare myself for the information that was to come. Her lack of eye contact was also a bit of a give away. She informed me that my HCG levels had dropped from 264 to 64 within 72 hours. My eyes swelled with tears. I was miscarrying my baby. Everything went silent, I didn’t hear anything else she said. She left the room and gave my amazingly supportive Husband and I time to regroup before having to walk out into the ER lobby. As soon as the door shut he rushed to my side and held me. I wept. I was hurt, our baby was gone. The child I prayed for, had already started preparing for, was soooo excited about having, our blessing, our newest family member, was gone…
angel baby
With tears in his eyes Hubby led me through the lobby, we held our heads high and went out of the door way without drawing attention. When we got to the car we shed tears together and offered comfort to one another. We journeyed back to my sisters house where we shared the troubling news. My sister was distraught and had a hard time coping.  My Mother was solid as a rock! She embraced us both and told us everything works according to God’s perfect Will. She encouraged me to be strong. To exercise my faith and trust God’s plan. We gathered our things and our son and headed home.
 I bled out for 4 more days until finally the bleeding stopped. February 18, 2014 was the day I finally passed the last bit of tissue and the bleeding stopped. It was such great closure! A few weeks went by and I was still unable to speak about babies, pregnancies or the such like. Whither it was mine or someone else’s I just couldn’t. Not that I didn’t want to, there were numerous women in my circle who had recently delivered or were pregnant. When I tried I would involuntarily have an emotional response and it let me know that I just wasn’t over it yet. I wasn’t willing to have an outburst or a break down in front of an audience. I saved my emotional melt downs for my Jesus and my Husband. They were the only reasons I got through this thing! Many days spent praying and crying and praying and crying! Many nights spent being consoled and pouring out my heart to my Husband. Weeks passed and then finally something clicked! I drew strength from sharing my story with people who felt that they could not get past a miscarriage. I found myself being thankful to God that He thought that I was strong enough to endure such a battle and survive! I did JUST that! I survived! This was a simple test! It question of my faith! Would I falter? Would I curse God? Question His will and His way? I thank God for the Holy Ghost abiding on the inside of me which grants me a special connection to Him! I carried on! I held my head up! I pressed my way! I went to each service and I praised God for being who He is! God giveth and God taketh away! I’m no more special than any other saint that God gives His love to! I must go through! How else would I ever be able to help others if I never went through anything myself? Experience is the best teacher! Somebody has to be a witness that God can bring you through tough situations such as this! I was so glad I never lost my joy! Sure I was sadden, sure I was hurt but I never lost my joy! I share this story with others from time to time as it comes up and I always get the same response: ” Whhhhatttt? When? Wait! Huh? I would have never known! You sure didn’t show any signs!” I always get happy when I hear that! It let me know that I am a lot stronger than I ever imagined myself to be! Getting put in such a tough spot. Feeling as though you’ve been given a tough pill to swallow and not knowing how you’ll make it through! I’m so thankful for my Mother, who taught me how to pray! Boy did I PRAY! Goodness! This situation brought me that much closer to God! I needed him every second of the day to get through this! I’m thankful that I am in the position to call on Jesus and He’ll answer! THIS is a beautiful part of my life’s testimony! How I overcame miscarriage!
Present Day {September 3, 2014} 
It took me weeks to overcome the loss of our second child!  It took me months to finish writing this blog! Many times I’d have to stop because tears filled my eyes so much to the point I was unable to see the computer screen. I started writing in June and now its September! Emotions were attached to every chapter of this journey that got me where I am today! Today I sit here, with a sweet toddler boy resting under Mommy’s protruding belly where his soon-to-be baby sister currently resides! 24 weeks pregnant with an extremely active  & healthy little bundle of joy! God is so faithful! I wrote this blogs with hopes of helping someone else. Hoping to help you begin the healing process with assurance in knowing you are not alone in this, and it DOES get better! It does! It will! Trust your body! It was so perfectly made! God will bless you again! Trust His plan! Find peace in knowing your baby never knew pain! S/he will never experience the troubles of this world, s/he went from the loving place inside of their Mothers womb right in to paradise! (I get excited about my baby making it into heaven! Hallelujah!) — I’m grateful to those who were supportive of me during this time! Who prayed for me even when they were not aware of what they were praying for. Who were patient with me and didn’t take the “alone time” I needed personal. Who were forever present in my life although I was a bit absent in theirs. Who embraced me and shed tears with me when I was strong enough to talk about my trial. Thank you! You know who you are! I’m forever grateful! — To you reading this, here’s to shinning a little hope on your situation! You are stronger than you might think you are! You can make it and you can get through this! Your precious rainbow baby will come in due time! I know this to be true because my precious rainbow baby is kicking in my womb as I write this! Keep the faith! God will bless you accordingly!❤
My sweet itty bitty @ 20wks

My sweet itty bitty @ 20wks

Festive Shrimp Spring Rolls


spring roll 11

Who doesn’t love a really good egg roll or spring roll? I know I do! What I love better is being able to create my own versions with lots of different varieties right in my own kitchen! As a bonus these spring rolls are fresher and healthier than the versions you’ll find in most restaurants! Enjoy!

Prep Time: 30 mins

Cook Time: 15 mins

Total Time: 25 mins

Yields: about a dozen spring rolls


1 pkg. steamed deveined shrimp

1/2 TBSP fresh garlic

2 cups fresh spinach

2 cup red cabbage (shredded)

2 cups carrots (shredded)

1 cups mushrooms

1 pkg. spring/ egg roll wrappers (thawed if frozen)

1 Lg. egg

oil for frying

S&P to taste



1. Place cabbage, carrots, mushrooms, and spinach in a steamer. Add salt and pepper to taste and let steam for about 7 mins. After 7 mins check firmness of vegetables. If at desired firmness remove from steamer and add vegetables to wok along with garlic for 3 mins. Take off heat and sit it to the side to cool.

 Spring roll 1

2. Place egg roll wrapper on a clean surface and add shrimp.

Spring roll 2

3. Then add vegetables arranging them according to your personal preference. Leaving plenty of room to roll.

spring roll 3spring roll 4spring roll 5

4. Fold the right, bottom, and top sides of the wrapper over the filling. Lift up enclosed edge and roll.

spring roll 6spring roll 7spring roll 8

5. Beat egg in a small bowl with a fork to create an egg wash. Using a basting add egg wash to folded edges and seal.

spring roll 9


spring roll 10

6. To fry, place oil in a deep sided frying pan (about 1 inch deep) over medium heat. Oil will start to form snake like lines at the bottom of the pan, this is an indication the oil is heating up. To test add the end of one spring roll to the pan if it begins to sizzle and cook its ready. Cook for 1 minute on each side or until golden brown. Using tongs to remove from the oil onto parchment paper, paper towel, or clean dish towel to drain.

7. Serve HOT & Enjoy!!

spring roll 11